There are two books that I frequently suggest to clients with school-age children, so I thought it might be helpful to reference them in a short post. An overwhelming amount of material exists on divorce, some of it good and some of it harmful. When you do find a helpful resource, don’t foget to share it with your spouse as early in the process as possible.
The first is The Good Divorce by Constance Ahrons, Ph.D. This book provides valuable information for families making the transition from a nuclear family to a “binuclear” family that spans two households while continuing to meet the needs of the children.
Another useful text for tho
se with school-age children is by another mental health professional and mediator, Isolina Ricci, Ph.D. Her book, Mom’s House, Dad’s House: Making Two Homes for your Child, was originally published in 1980 but was updated in 1997. It can be helpful before, during, or after divorce, and it is a good choice for step-parents to read. Besides custody and co-parenting information, Dr. Ricci covers some myths about divorce and some of the emotional factors involved in ending a relationship. There are also sections on legal issues, divorce mediation, long-term parenting plans, and special situations such as long-distance parenting.
There is also a version of this book designed for children.
What books have you found helpful during or after your divorce? Please let us know by sending in a comment.